With the lack of community and extended families do you think we as a society have lost the ability to parent?

All these new 'Super Nanny' type programs seem to suggest this also the new ASBOs and trouble with truancy etc. What's your take?With the lack of community and extended families do you think we as a society have lost the ability to parent?
Good question, and yes i think it is perfectly true that if young people dont see other people in their family coping with babies etc then when they themselves are parents then they havent a clue.





In the past, many people would see their own parents have more children, and then their older brothers and sisters would have children thus giving them practical experience.





The help is out there for parents who want to learn, but most young people havent a clue how HARD it is to be a good parent and how long it goes on for.With the lack of community and extended families do you think we as a society have lost the ability to parent?
And don't forget the deleterious effect of children learning their world view from TV where problems are common and rarely resolved. If we all live like soap characters because they seem to have things to do with their lives, unlike the majority of those who watch who watch precisely because they have nothing better to do, well, we'll attract the same problems.
no
Not lack of community and extended families.


Lack of priorities. A lash back at being brought up in more strict environments and not spending time with our own kids.





Guilt and lack of time together is then used as a spoiling device. Negative attention-seeking that the kids display is not then recognised and they rebel when they are unfairly punished. Anyhting for a quick fix.





Lazy, 'busy' stressed parents not putting in the proper effort.





Oh, and schools not being able to help any more as kids can run rings round adults there.
based on the fact that most parents are still kids themselves id say yes we have lost the ability to parent, cos the teenage mums wanna be out drinkin cider in the park which is what got them where they are now!!
No.





Mature, capable, parents don't need community and extended families to help raise children.





Mature, capable, parents not only don't want or need the two-cents or advice of any community or extended family; there are times when community or extended family serve no purpose other than to interfere with a process that was going along fine before outsiders butted in.





I think the parents of today's parents may have failed in some way when it comes to teaching their children how to be parents, and I think all the ';community's'; (culture's) ideas have caused some young parents to listen to foolish ideas.
No I don't think we've lost the ability to parent. I just think with the lack of community and extended families (or families being too far away) it can be more difficult w/o the extra support system. Those 'super nanny' programs are out there for a buck and also we have to remember that there have been 'bad' kids even when our parents/grandparents were young. Its not a new thing.
No I don't think so. I do think that to a certain extent we have become too self centred and forgotten how to be an adult, which is a whole different thing.


However my daughter Sara, who is a whole lot older than me in her attitudes, would agree with you hands down.


That is not to say that she agrees with people being taught how to sing nursery rhymes to their kids.......
No, there is no lost ability, I think some people like prefer or need to work instead of staying at home. I have stayed at home and raise my kids for at least the first year of life. I just cannot trust a stranger to respect my values and morals and how I interact with my newborn. I have sacrificed money to insure my child is taken CARE of by the best person for the job, me, the mother or father.





To myself it really seem like parents do not value education as much, they seem to not teach respect. What's to blame? Society? The 60's? We have slacked in our disciplinary skills the past 20 or so years.





I have often stated that dogs are better parents than humans, they go on instinct and for the most part those 'kids' come out fine, however, have you ever taken note that WE humans are the ones who screw up the dogs? (not every human, but there are a few out there)
its all media hype. its always happened but as a society we never really took much notice and now the media are shoving this kind of thing down our throat like there is no tomorrow!!!





i'm from a ';broken'; home and have an extended family, and my kids are brilliant.