What should a parent do if their son says they are gay and is not teasing about it? Also, how do you cope?

Accept him and love him for who he is. You could also ask if there's a special fellow in his life.What should a parent do if their son says they are gay and is not teasing about it? Also, how do you cope?
They should carry on as normal- the only thing that has changed is that the son is now openly gay rather than unsure or not ready to tell his parents.





They should also hope that he finds a nice man to settle down and be happy with.





There's nothing to 'cope' with, it's not like anyone wants to hear about their children's sex lives anyway.What should a parent do if their son says they are gay and is not teasing about it? Also, how do you cope?
Well, that is a very personal question. I am assuming you love your son no matter what so his sexual orientation shouldn't change that. I am wondering what exactly it is that you are trying to cope with. This is a shocking revelation for you both. I am sure your son is very worried about how you are taking this bit of information and he is probably wondering if you will still love him the way you did before his revelation.





As his parent, I would think your first course of action is to make sure your son realizes you still love him no matter what. Understand that it is hard for a young man to share this intimate secret with anybody, especially his parents. You mean the world to him.





Now, are you trying to cope with the fact that your son has a difficult road ahead of him and you are concerned with how he is going to deal with the ignorant people who will ridicule him or try to harm him. Are you trying to cope with your fears that he may be hurt by somebody based solely on his sexual orientation? In that case, I would say you should talk with him and let him know that you are there to help him deal with his pain, just like always.





Are you trying to cope with idea of never having grandchildren? That is a possibility, but there are ways around that nowadays and they are getting easier and easier.





You sound like you truly love your son, so you will probably be okay. Just remember, his is a difficult path to navigate and he will need all of your help, love, compassion, and understanding.





Best of luck to you.
He is your son. That did not change when you found out he was gay. He is the same person he always was and you should treat him as you always did. You loved him yesterday, why would you not love him today. Who he choses to sleep with has little to do with you anyway no matter who it is that he sleeps with. You cope as you would with any other situation. You try to be a loving parent to him and listen to what he has to say. You love him, you be happy when he is happy and you cry when he cries. Look at his face, is it any different now? Does this make any difference to the memories you have of him as a baby, toddler preschooler and so forth? You hug your son and tell him that you love him just as you always have.
Talk to him about it, but only to the extent that it's comfortable for everybody.





Remember that when you talk to a gay child about being gay you are essentially discussing his sex life. No parent or child is comfortable with that.





So the rule of thumb is to be respectful and of course let him know that they love him as he is, gay or not.
As a parent all you can do is love your child unconditionally. They will break your heart and turn you gray early on in the years, but you have to keep loving him. You can't berate him or chastise him for his sexual preference, but you can silently and often pray for God to help you understand and for His will to be done in your son's life as well as your own.





You can set ground rules in your house as a parent that there will be no sexual activity in the house, or you may be the kind that would rather he do it at home and not somewhere else.





You need to ready yourself to hear people calling your son derogatory names and you will here some vile, venomous comments and names called at him when you're around.





Be strong and be there for your son and his mate just as you would have if he was heterosexual and brought home a girlfriend.





Good luck,
If he is young set him down with a counselor, preferable of the religion that you are. A lot of kids get persuaded into thinking that they are with drugs or peer pressure, but in 10 years they are like no I was sooo confused, and now iv messed my life up. I wouldnt use a regular counselor unless I knew their morals because they tend to me crooked thinkers, left wings who accept and love gays. (Not picking on them just stating). If it turns out that they are gay, then just accept them and love them just the same, there is nothing that you can do-the more you push the more they will fall from you. You could also embrace it and see if they are like ewww they want me to be, im gona go against them now. It could be rebellion. Just be careful what you do you could lose them forever or this could be a call for help.





Also you are concerned about their soul becuase a lot of religions say that homosexuality is wrong (im guessing thats why you posted it here in religeon?). I would just tell them hey, I understand that you feel that way but God says its wrong, how do YOU feel about that. Ask them are they ok, and if they need you or help.





THIS IS MEANT IN NO WAY TO OFFEND ANY HOMOSEXUAL OR ANYONE WHO SUPPORTS THEM I AM JUST TRYING TO HELP SOMEONE.
Your son is still the same person. He didn't become an alien in the 2 seconds it took to say, ';I'm gay.'; You shouldn't need a coping mechanism, just love him the same way you did before he came out to you. And perhaps have a little more respect for him because he's being true to himself even though it must have been very difficult to tell you about it. Let him be happy.
Some Christian sects believe that you can ';pray the gay away';, so to speak; however, you cannot.


If your son is homosexual then you should respect and not criticize the way he is. He did not openly choose to be gay, remember that. Who would, with all the ridicule and hatred they get for their sexual orientation?





He's the same person, nothing has changed. He's always been that way.
Accept that your son is gay and get on with it. The alternative is to lose your son. It depends what is more important to you. A belief in an unsubstantiated theory about a giant invisible sky fairy or your beloved child.





Practicing Shaman.. .quantum physics rocks.
A friend of mine just found out his 26 year old son has full blown aids, not just HIV positive, and has been in the hospital for 2 weeks. I can promise you he is sorry he just loved and accepted him. I know he wishes he had gone down fighting every step of the way - maybe he would have died before his son, but that is not likely now.
I don't think I could ever accept homosexuality as normal. This does not mean that I wouldn't see my son as normal. i would love my son unconditionally but that doesn't mean we would agree on this issue..ever.


I wouldn't force what I believed upon him but I wouldn't want him to force his beliefs on me either. I would want to know his partner just to see what type of person he is...
It gives him no rights to sin. He is being tempted to commit the Sin Crying to Heaven For Vengeance. You don't ';cope';-- you get him to a Catholic priest or a Protestant minister and get him some advice. Before he convinces himself that he can sin without committing himself to Hell.





But I doubt it is other than an evil intention, because the schools encourage the lie that God created multiple genders, rather than man and woman. There are only TWO GENDERS. All, however, being born in sin on this earth are not born perfect; sometimes with physical deformities which the school takes advantage of and convinces unwary parents and children that they are a ';new gender,'; hooray! They work on their minds until there is doubt. Then they spring with this new idea that they are a THIRD gender!





It isn't.





Soon DNA will be the last word on public records regarding gender. Maybe then they will get the ';Christine Jorgensens'; out of the Women's Tennis tournaments!
There is no coping. He is your son; always has been, always will be. He's the same guy he was two days before he told you that he was gay, now you just now a little bit more about him. Talk to him and tell him that you love him, that is all he wants from you.
if you love your son then you should accept him for who he is... i know someone that got disowned by there family because they were gay. and you don't want to know what psychological damage that might have. you shouldn't need to have to cope...its his decision. it shouldn't affect you much.
cope? its not like you have suffered a loss. he is the one going through a rough time. coming out is hard.


1. dont forget your the parent...you need to help him through this.


2. this is about him not you, dont make it about you.
As I read your question this book I had read came to mind. It's called


Stick a Geranium in Your Hat and Be Happy by Barbara Johnson





She talks about how she dealt with her son's homosexuality. She's got a bit of a humor if the title of the book sounds funny. The book is really good and I'm sure you can get some enlightment %26amp; encouragement from it.





How do you cope? The Lord will help you cope. He doesn't give us more than we can handle. That author Barbara Johnson really went through alot.





Also I believe it would be good for you to get some Christian counselling. There's a really good pastor at www.doersoftheword.org


that has a toll free # you can call. Plus he doesn't charge any fees. He has a deliverance ministry.





The Lord bless you %26amp; keep you.


May the Lord comfort you %26amp; give you His Wisdom.


May the Lord save your son in Jesus Name.
Read this. Its Based on the Bible. If anything will work this will.





Homosexuality


—How Can I Avoid It?


http://www.watchtower.org/e/200702b/arti…
Accept that this is how your son was made, before he was even conceived. God made him how he is to serve God's plans for his life.





You love him for who he is.
The first respondent had it right: love and accept your son. He is still your son. And what do you mean by cope? He's gay, not a burn victim.
Tell him that you only want him to have a good life, and that your only concerns are that he have a stable relationship.
Nothing, they're gay, what the hell does that change?





Oh boo hoo i can't cope, my girl dyed her hair, what can i do?
';Cope?';





haha wow, religious people are ironically the most hateful people.
love him just the same. his sexual preference is no one's business. Just pray he is monogamous.
Accept and love your son the same as you did before. He's still the same person.
Not a damn thing.





Just love your kid anyway, and hope he finds someone who will love and cherish and respect him.
If he's gay he's gay...wouldn't matter to me. He is my son and I would love him regardless.
Stop trying to live your life vicariously through him. Cope with what? It's his life.
Loving ';What IS'; is always helpful......
If either of my sons had told me such a thing, I would continue to love him, but I would not allow him to act or dress like anything but a man in my presents. I would certainly not allow any sexual activity in my home. Other than that, I would feel sorry for him and try my best to understand.
Pray for him, and ask God to help your son find his way, but still always make sure you love him..