What would you do in this situation if you were a parent to a child in kindergarten ?

in the middle of class...your child threw up..and the teacher yelled at her (him)..and made them cry.What would you do in this situation if you were a parent to a child in kindergarten ?
i'd slap that teacher in her face and make her cry. My son is in kindergarten and i wouldn't stand for that at all.What would you do in this situation if you were a parent to a child in kindergarten ?
If this teacher was otherwise kind %26amp; patient, I would explain to my child that her teacher was just surprised %26amp; flustered, didn't know what to do %26amp; was having a bad day. I'm pretty sure my child would have been crying about throwing up in class, anyway. And, the other kids probably reacted wildly, too, when that happened. I can imagine a teacher slipping %26amp; speaking sharply in that situation, trying to restore some calm %26amp; deal with it all. Teachers are human, too.
I would be irate!! I would demand a meeting with the principal. Is it possible the child was crying out of embarrassment though?
In that situation I would go straight to the offending teacher and she better hope that the principal comes and rescues her!
That depends on what they yelled. If they were suprised by it and said something like ';oh my god';, I wouldnt really care. Plus even when Im sick, I cry much easier. The obvious thing to do is talk to the teacher, if it was a misunderstanding have the teacher talk to the child. If it wasnt, bring it up to the principal.
definatly talk to the principal and have a meeting with the teacher, its not like its the childs fault, people are idiots!:)
I'd go ape over that...unless the kid deliberately disobeyed the teacher when she told him not to eat the rubber cement and puked as a result. Other than that, how could a teacher possibly justify yelling at a kid for puking?
Talk to the teacher. She should be confronted.
DAM! I would never take that abuse from a school teacher, especially one who teaches Kindergarten (my oldest son is in k, also). You should talk with the principal and demand some apologies for that RUDE uncalled-for behavior from a professional who is supposed to be sensitive to 5 yr old kids.
call the principal and arrange for an emergency meeting, you need to get to the bottom of this and fast. but before you go off half ****** make sure that's exactly what happened. if it is, that teacher needs to be disciplined. in Canada it is illegal for a teacher to physically discipline a child in any way shape or form.
Well, my daughter is in Kindergarten at a private school and if her teacher ever yelled and if her teacher ever did this, I would not only remove my daughter from the school, I would tell everyone I know about it.





When my son was in kindergarten last year, he threw up backstage at a big theater production here. The director that was dealing with the younger kids was great though. I couldn't believe HE (a man!!) cleaned up the puke!
Talk to the principle about what the teacher did to your child. Clearly state that she/he had to right what-so-ever to yell at my child for getting sick. He/she is just a little 5/6 year old. Ask the principle what actions he/she plans on taking because that was not professional at all.
I would talk to the principal
principle
I would talk with the teacher calmly first and if I didn't like what she said I would talk to the principal. If I didn't get results from that I would talk to the board of education. That just isn't right, but then again I don't know who let you know of this incident. There is always two sides to every story. I know how parents always want to protect there children.
I would first get the teacher's perspective, but would most likely talk to the principle.
That is WRONG. That's a sick child, not a misbehaving one. Very sad!





I'd schedule a meeting with the principal and not let it drop.
I would go straight to the principal and have them reported. My son is in kindergarten and I would have a fit if that happened to him!
It's uncalled for! The poor kid felt bad and was probably already embarrassed for vomiting in front of his classmates. The teacher should have been there to say that ';everything is alright'; and rushed him to the nurse lovingly.


I would talk to the principle!!!


My daughter is in kindergarten and if this happened to her, I would be pissed!
I WOULD CONTACT THE SCHOOL PRINCIPAL AND HAVE HER REMOVED SHE IS OBVIOUSLY NOT ADEQUATE TO BE AROUND KIDS.........AND IS THAT DO NOT WORK I WOULD GO TO THE SCHOOL AND BIT HER INTO TROWING UP THEN I WILL YELL AT HER.......
I'd complain to the principle, and if that didnt get the reaction I wanted Id go to the superattendants office.聽 That teacher has no right to treat them like that, especially when thier sick!

revlon

When someone's child is taken away for neglect, does the biological parent have a say in what happens to him?

Consider this situation:





Someone told me their child was taken away because of neglect. (This was in the 60's). The boy was a cute little three year old that was never adopted, but lived in foster care his whole childhood. The mother said this was because she signed something or stated that she didn't want anyone to adopt him. Is this possible? Could she really have a say in whether he was adopted or lived in foster care once the state took him away?When someone's child is taken away for neglect, does the biological parent have a say in what happens to him?
The laws have changed DRASTICALLY since the sixties! Now your child is put out for adoption when he has been in foster care for 15 months unless the worker determines that the parent(s) have changed and now have their act together. They will forcibly terminate your parental rights in a hearing in Family Court.


http://www.childwelfare.govWhen someone's child is taken away for neglect, does the biological parent have a say in what happens to him?
If your child gets taken away from you by the government because you neglected and didn't take care of the child, i don't think that that parent should not have any say in what happens to the child next! That parent obviously doesn't care about what's in the best interest of their child.
Yes, this could happen


Unless a mother and now father relinquishes parental rights or the courts take them away, nobody can adopt the child.

IS it ok to be on your period when going to planned parent hood to get on birthcontrol?

i am going to planned parenthood tomorrow to get on birth control and i am just kinda ending my period, its light, but not super light, and i didnt know if they did any ';observing'; becuase tomorrow is the only day that works out fo rme to do it. do you think it will be ok for me to go still? please let me know! thanksIS it ok to be on your period when going to planned parent hood to get on birthcontrol?
the doctor will advise you on any questions you have.. when i first went to the doctor i was at the end of my period too. They advise you to take it the day after your current period, that ensures youll be protected from pregnancy for the hole month. Hope this helpsIS it ok to be on your period when going to planned parent hood to get on birthcontrol?
It should be fine. My understanding is that you can start the pill at any time. However, you may want to ask someone there for clarification. They'll probably be willing to help.
Course it will be.


You will have to wait till your next period to start taking the pill. If this is the right birth control you want to use.

How old do u have to be to get a tattoo with parent consent when the shop is in clarion pa?

can you be 14, 15, 16 to get a tattoo if your parent or guardian consents?How old do u have to be to get a tattoo with parent consent when the shop is in clarion pa?
18How old do u have to be to get a tattoo with parent consent when the shop is in clarion pa?
where i live its 18, no younger, even if parents say its ok.
Any reputable artist won't touch you till you are 18...even with parental consent.
For a *clean* good shop you have to be18. If a place lets you at a younger age- you might want to think twice about getting it.
if guardain let u it ok and if not u have to be 18 or u have a frend
I don't know about PA.


But in IL, some Tattoo shops are 21 even with parental consent.





Why don't you call them and ask?
In some state you can get one while being only 16 and friend told me so it might not be true!! LOL

Does anyone have a parent who's Bipolar or knows someone who is? If so how do you deal with it?

I know it's just as hard for them as it is for the people around them. I just want to know that I'm not alone.Does anyone have a parent who's Bipolar or knows someone who is? If so how do you deal with it?
The best way to treat it is with medicine and knowledge. I have it, and have had it for years, so my sister and parents know what to sort of expect. What makes it easier is knowing what's going on with it, so a lot of research can help. Talk to a psychiatrist who specializes in bipolar; they can add a lot of information from many perspectives.Does anyone have a parent who's Bipolar or knows someone who is? If so how do you deal with it?
I am a parent of a bipolar child and everyday there is an unexpected mood swing or 10 having a family member with the disease tears at the family daily but hang in there love them try to educate yourself talk with someone about getting some coping tools in place hold them accountable for their behaviors but remember to be forgiving and what they live with on the inside is a fraction of what we deal with on the outside
I am bipolar II. I try to give my family/friends as much information as possible, so they can be well-educated in different situations. Doesn't always work... my family prefers ignorance and crisis response, not prevention. But the more people know and learn up on the facts about the disorder, the easier it is for everyone.
My mum has bipolar and yeah it's hard to deal with, but we usually pull through. It's really tough though. (haha thouse words look similar). It's especially hard because someone you look up to is experiencing it. It's hard to see someone who you think is amazing feel so bad about themself. :( email me if you want to talk about it. I know exactly how you feel.
i am a parent with bipolar and one of my biggest fears is that i am causing my kids stress because of this. i take medication and basically i still have mood swings and i hate myself later, i hope that just try to understand and i know we go through such guilt that our kids are expose to our mood swings and it hurts us so bad. i hope you can realize its is not about you if the mood swings seem directed in your direction, we are sorry for having to put this on our children, its something we that hurts us beyond words.
I have a friend that is that way, we just had to let her do what she wanted, cause she just wouldn't listen. she was hooked on painkillers, she is now off and doing much better! she takes something to just take the edge off of her days now...
My mom is bipolar. It's hard. I had to leave home at 16. She likes to attack me and put blame on me. I had to grow up and realize that it's the sickness. I keep her in my life, but at a distance.
Bipolars are famous for not taking their medication. You have to make sure they stay on their meds. Each time they go off of their meds they get worse and can never regain what they have lost.

My wife mwant divorce only on the basis of age difference ,but I dont. . Actual this is due to hers parent ego?

We r from same cast. Our love marraige get registered. Due to her parent wish she doesnt want to come back with me. But i love her very much. Due to her parents she file case against me for null %26amp; voide but her case is dissmissed. I also applied for conjugal rights. And i want to live with her so give me best suggesion. My wife mwant divorce only on the basis of age difference ,but I dont. . Actual this is due to hers parent ego?
It sounds to me like there's nothing you can do. Next time, fall for an American woman. An American woman would never choose her parents over her husband!My wife mwant divorce only on the basis of age difference ,but I dont. . Actual this is due to hers parent ego?
Its crazy %26amp; confusing. You say that yours is a love marriage %26amp; did your wife not know about your age difference while she was in love. I think that she is being guided by someone from behind.





Moreover, she is not a kid to do whatever she is being told to do by her family. Now she is doing things against you without even thinking of your love %26amp; affection. So what is the use of your interest to live with her. She is definitely not going to give you her real love or peace in your life. Just forget her and take an alternative decision. Don't get sunk in her thoughts. When she plans to live without you, then you too can live a better life without her. Choose some other partner if you want and prove this girl that you can live in a better way. She should feel that she lost you because of her mistakes.
So is she wanting a divorce based solely on her parents' wishes? If she truly does love you as you love her, then why should her parents control her decisions?





If she doesn't love you as you love her, then just let her do what she wants to do, even if she's doing it under the advice of her parents.





Your problem sounds complicated, but if you don't want to lose her then convince her and her parents that you love her and want to be with her. If you cannot do this, then it sounds like there may be a divorce.
Get some marriage counselling. Let her know that you love her and that you are committed to this marriage; and ask her if she feels the same. Be patient, work hard to let her know that as a spouse you find your marriage important; then after she sees this - she will have to decide whether she wants to hold this relationship as more important or wants to go with her parents.
I apologize if it hurts you but then NOBODY CAN WALK AWAY FROM THE TRUTH. You have to accept that she is no more intersted in leaving with you. YOU CAN STILL TRY SPEAKING TO HER, JUST REMIND HER OF THE GOOD times that you have spent together. When you both married she knows that you were older or younger to her, but even then she married you. There might be a possibility that her family might be pushing her to divorse you. You have to speak to her %26amp; let her know that you are always there for her %26amp; will stand by for whole of your life.





But even then she doesn wanna be with you, DONT PUSH HER IT WOULD NOT HELP. SHe might start leaving with you physically, but her heart %26amp; mind would not be there.


I hope you want her love, rather than physically.








JUST GIVE HER SOME TIME TO REALIZE THAT YOU LOVE HER %26amp; SHE ALSO LOVES U %26amp; NEED U.
American women love there men independently .......they ';divorce'; on there decisions......not there parent's....


marry an american women and be happy..let this indian women go..she'll live her life for her parents and you'll always wished you'd got out...
One side of affection and Love will not work, trust me, let this relationship go .. i know it's kinda verrrry difficult,but, difficult decision has to be taken for a better life. ( just an advice, think over it)
dont let nothing get in your way if you love her and she loves you and shes of age run away with her and live a happy life and leave her parents behind!good luck!
That shouldn't be the case. The age thing. You knew that when she married you. Sounds like her family is to nosey and that she my be seeing someone else.
Sorry but it's not likely she didn't have some thoughts herself of wanting out. Best thing is to let her out.
cast???? sorry, I have no idea.

revlon

I want this car its a 1979 camaro but money and parent problems?

Ok I need a lot of help i found this car for $750 and i asked my dad for help to get the money cause i'm 15 and cant find a job can someone tell me how i can convince my dad to help me get money cause he helps my brother but not me.I want this car its a 1979 camaro but money and parent problems?
nice taste, that is right before camaro went pink. those were nasty.have you talked to the owner? if they are asking $750 for it, they might sell it payments while it sits in their yard of course,';hint,hint';if you want it, get off your *** son. all im saying.you might pay for a few months, but i bought my first car and ill buy my last.to hell with dad.I want this car its a 1979 camaro but money and parent problems?
Without a job, how are you going to pay for gas, maintenance and insurance?

Why cant the birth parent (mother) just wait until they child wants to find them?

We owe you nothing. I dont really care if you are hurting. You made the choice to give the child up . Deal with the fact that they may not want anything to do with you. So my question is why cant you let the child find you?Why cant the birth parent (mother) just wait until they child wants to find them?
The birth parents know the family health history. That's the only important thing I can imagine they have to share with you. But someone who had to give a child up for adoption probably has been living with so much guilt it's unbearable. Of course they shouldn't expect to have a relationship with you now, but finding out about ';family'; health issues could prove to be valuable. Why cant the birth parent (mother) just wait until they child wants to find them?
Your own personal issues shouldn't be used as a basis for ALL reunions.





Do you have any clue how many adoptees don't search for the very reason you have mentioned? ';she gave me away so she can come looking'; They may want to be found but fear disrupting her life, since we all ';know'; that first parents just move on like nothing happened.





I'm sorry that your own reunion has, obviously, left you hurting and angry but not all end that way. Some reunions are truly what is best for all involved. My first mom searched for and found me and I can honestly say that if she hadn't I would not be here typing this response. Without her in my life I had no meaning, no joy and no desire to go on. My mother saved me by searching end of story. Sorry yours didn't go well but many do. Most of the adoptees I know who have had negative reunions still say that the closure and whatever history they gained was worth it.





For you to think that your one bad experience outweighs any other experience is a bit extreme. Stopping first parents from searching will never stop your pain, it will never erase the events you have already lived through. You seem to be in need of someone to talk to about your own reunion fallout. Whatever the reasons or circumstance you have the right to your own emotions but please own them, they are yours not ours.



Why shouldn't FPs be allowed to maintain relationships with the children they love from the start? Unless there is abuse or neglect present, I believe it is hurtful to keep a child from someone who cares about them. I think it would prevent a lot of cases like yours.





However, I also repect that the people IN the relationship have the right to decide whether they wish to continue to maintain it when they are old enough to decide for themselves. Your Fist Mother should respect you and allow you to decide how you feel. (Although you sound pretty hurt and hateful - which may be justified but I do think you should work on how you feel about it.) You should try to have a little respect for her too - respect works both ways...












So heres a couple differences in opinion that we share.





Not all mothers, chose to surrender their children to adoption. If you don't believe me, read Georgia Tann The Baby Thief. Google ';Baby scoop era';





second, searching is up to anyone, but there isn't any type of right to a reunion. If you have asked your mother who surrendered you to adoption, to stay away, or that you don't want a relationship with her, she should honor and respect that, as hard and devastating as it may be.






The answer to that is simple: sometimes, during adoptions, parents give consent for their information to be barred from the child and their new family, meaning that the information cannot be handed over. So, the majority of the time, of the birth parent wants to see the child or get in touch, it is all on their shoulders.
LOL isn't the same thing (in reverse) dicated to adoptees who want to search for their mothers! geez we're told 'maybe she doesn't want to be found' and 'you shouldn't disrupt your mother's life' etc etc





And if the mother searches she is told the same thing - outrageous.





Usually that 'child' is an adult when and if a mother finds them.





As adults we are capable of conducting our own affairs - yep, if we were adopted as kids! really, it's true!





If an old boyfriend contacts me and I don't want to know, I can say so.





If any other adult contacts me and I don't want to know, I can say so.





It's called freedom of association and we actually live in a democracy (don't we?)





Grown-ups can handle their own grown-up relationships like, well, grown ups!
';You made the choice to give the child up .';





-that's a major flaw in your argument. not all women ';made the choice';, yet, many had the choice made for them.





i think searching as long as there is no threat of violence or harm (no matter who initates it) is appropriate. now whether or not a relationship evolves, is up to the people involved





sorry you can't understand the power of a mother's love to find a child she carried in her body and gave birth to...





do you have any children? my magic 8-ball says, ';not likely.';
As an adoptive parent, I truely honor and applaud the birth-mothers of my two children. They didn't ';give them up';, but rather gave a gift of a solid stable family to our children that they were not able to provide.





As for your resistance to any contact with them, can any of us really have too many people love us? We have open relationships with both of our childrens' birth mothers and our children have known and loved them as part of our family ever since they can remember.
wow, most birth parents don't go searching for their kids. a lot of times (nowa days) people do open adoption and are involved in the child's life. and i think you need to be a little more sensitive, you don't know why the mother made that choice and you don't know how the child feels about it. grow up just because that's how you feel or you think doesn't mean everyone else feels that way.
Until you search, you don't know...





She should respect your wishes once you've expressed them.





The adoptee may not want anything to do with their mother. But they may. Are you so insecure that a contact, at which point you express your desire to be left alone, is so upsetting?





I'm an adoptee. And I would have LOVED to have my mom find me earlier than I searched. But she was discouraged from doing so. It's a shame we lost more time because of that.
youre right... if you are an adult and you want to be left alone then you should have that right. however, i think that you should have her current contact information JUST IN CASE you get curious one day. but if i were you then i would tell her that youre gonna call her when YOU are ready, and until then she needs to respect that, no matter how much she may be ';hurting.';
As a birth mother, I waited until my son was a man. He was overjoyed to find me. I recently helped him through the deaths of his mother and father, and I'm glad I could be there for him.





Until you have had a child of your own, you'll never understand the depth of the pain. I do think that the mother should wait until the child is an adult...at least 30.
Hmm, here's another one of these questions, just like the earlier one ';how do I get my bxxxxxxxxer to back off'; (which is an exact duplicate of a question asked a while ago).





I think there are people here who want to scare off both mothers and their children....they have an agenda of closed records and opposition to reunion.
humans aren't perfect. they make mistakes and when they realize that. they want make things right. they regret what they did and what to try and make up for what they did.
I dont know......... maybe the think that the child deserves to see their parents... But I do think it should be up to the child to decide if they want to see their real parents or not since the parents hurt the child by leaving them....
So how old are you and what have you told her about this? Did you tell her to check back in 5 years, or are you just assuming that being a birth mother means she can read your mind?
Because often decisions to give a child up are made quickly and due to pressure by parents/partner/society/friends.





I can't answer the question full as I've never been in that situation.
You registered today. Sigh.





My mother had no choice--most didn't.





Why not find your mother and ask her yourself.
18 years of grief if adoption was illegal like my wifes. Chew on that pc of cud.
WOW - you have a lot of anger inside.


Perhaps you should see someone about that.
maybe they regret their decision...
[Deal with the fact that they may not want anything to do with you.]





I did. I convinced myself to think that they would not even remember who I was. I told myself that they could have died years ago. I braced myself for an Invalid Address stamp on a return envelope when I sent out an initial contact letter.





I was wrong.





They wanted to know me very much, they wanted to see me and hear me and communicate with me.





Your one bad experience does not cover us all. I am sorry that you are obviously hurting so much that you feel as if cutting down others here will make you feel better. We are not you. Our ';birth'; mothers are not your birth mother.





That said, I am truly sorry your mother rejected you. It must be an awful thing to have to face. You may say you do not care, but if you did not care, you would not be raging about it here on this forum and bashing the rest of us who are in reunion or who are searching. You would not be spitting such venom and generalizing all birth mothers.





No matter how much insulting you hurl at ';birth'; mothers here, they will never ';become'; your birth mother and they cannot remedy your situation nor can they create a time machine and make their own reunions ';bad'; just so you can feel better about yourself.
We live in a society where we enjoy free association. Giving up a child means giving up the rights to PARENT that child. It doesn't mean giving up all other societal rights. Therefore, first parents have every right to search.





Further, giving one up for adoption does not constitute an absolute lack of caring. Many people here will be the first to say that adoption is the ';loving option'; in cases where the first parents feel unequipped to give the child proper care.





Therefore, first parents have the right to search and make contact. However, like all other citizens, they do not have the right to continue with unwanted contact.





I understand that you did not wish to have contact. However, many adopted persons feel quite differently about this issue. I, for one, was quite happy to find out that my first father was searching for me. We enjoy a fulfilling seven year relationship due to our reunion.





Even so, your own personal preferences in this matter cannot override the societal rights of others to free association. Without due process, this is a right that is not to be stripped from another individual. Even restraining orders are not granted without cause. An entire group of citizens, those who have relinquished a child, cannot be stripped of this right simply because some adopted persons don't prefer contact at all. That places them in a penalizing position -- a position that is normally set aside for those who are known to be a threat to another individual -- without cause.





Again, the right to enjoy free association like all other free citizens was not a right that was relinquished by the first parents. Only the right to parent was relinquished.
';You made the choice to give the child up ';





Actually, this blanket statement is wrong in 80% to 98% of cases. The mothers did not have a choice. And this is exactly why many mothers search -- they loved their baby wanted to keep their baby, but were forced by various means to surrender their babies. Often the mothers were minors and had as little choice in the matter as their babies did.





There is no choice if there is only one viable option given. The mother may encounter pressure such as: ';Surrender your baby because we won't let you keep her.'; She may be denied access to the resources and support necessary to keep her baby, convinced she would be a bad mother and does not deserve to keep her baby, told she's not allowed to come home with that ';bastard child,'; her baby taken at birth before she is recovered enough to make any valid decision, or her signature forced while she's still medicated from the birth. Incarceration by parents in maternity ';homes'; is also used on mothers. And in light of this, with no support or valid means provided to keep her baby, there is no choice.





If a mother does surrender an unloved and unwanted baby, i can understand that child's right to not be contacted. But if a mother has been coerced into surrendering a baby she loves and wanted to keep, her rights being violated, then she should have the right to search for her child.





I searched for my son and found him when he was 19. He is thankful I found him. And yes, I am his mom and he calls me ';Mom.'; I support legislation enabling natural mothers to obtain the adoptive names of the child they lost to adoption so they can search for them as I did.





I never ';chose adoption';. My son was loved and I was a fit mother. My only crime was being 17 and unwed. Your natural mother may not have had any more of a choice either.





';Did you want to keep your baby?'; is the defining question. If she wanted to keep you, and didn't, then i would look at what factors made her feel forced to surrender you.
Quite honestly, there is no excuse for a birth parent who searches. Registering is fine but if you search you demonstrate a complete lack of care and respect for your child.





Making an adoption plan is a lifetime commitment, you are not stashing your child with some poor fool who has decided to take her during the expensive years while you're out having a good time so that you can waltz in later as if nothing ever happened.





Human beings make adoptions plans. Human beings are adopted. Human beings make mistakes.





Some people just don't stop to think about the impact of a search on the other parties involved. It would be nice if every birth mother were mature and insightful but that is just never going to happen when human beings are involved.





But it most certainly doesn't mean that we have any obligation to pretend that their poor choice isn't selfish and inappropriate.
sometimes people make decisions they later regret


although it seems like you want the birth parents to have nothing to do with your adopted child


so out of respect they should leave you alone and just accepe the fact
Good question. It should be up to the child.
?????????????????????? ur writing is confusing i dnt know which side ur defending
um im kind of confused?


who are you defending?

Do you need a Parent with you to get into Disney Quest?

If I am 14. DO I need a Parent or adult with me, so I can go to disney quest? Or can i just pay and go in by myself with friends?Do you need a Parent with you to get into Disney Quest?
Disney Quest is an amazing 5 story indoor interactive


theme park. There are 3D, virtual realty rides, design


your own coaster, old fashioned arcade games, learn


to draw Disney characters and a song booth to make


your own cd, food %26amp; shopping. It is located in Downtown


Disney and there is an admission fee of $42.60 for ages


10-adult $36.21 for ages 3-9 and FREE for under 3 years


All prices include tax. This can also be added on to


a park Hopper %26amp; more ticket.


*You do not need a parent with you because you are older


than 13 years old. For more inofrmation go to


www.allearsnet.com click on beyond the theme parks.


You will find it on the left under Down town Disney.Do you need a Parent with you to get into Disney Quest?
I was dropped off there once, so yeah.

With the lack of community and extended families do you think we as a society have lost the ability to parent?

All these new 'Super Nanny' type programs seem to suggest this also the new ASBOs and trouble with truancy etc. What's your take?With the lack of community and extended families do you think we as a society have lost the ability to parent?
Good question, and yes i think it is perfectly true that if young people dont see other people in their family coping with babies etc then when they themselves are parents then they havent a clue.





In the past, many people would see their own parents have more children, and then their older brothers and sisters would have children thus giving them practical experience.





The help is out there for parents who want to learn, but most young people havent a clue how HARD it is to be a good parent and how long it goes on for.With the lack of community and extended families do you think we as a society have lost the ability to parent?
And don't forget the deleterious effect of children learning their world view from TV where problems are common and rarely resolved. If we all live like soap characters because they seem to have things to do with their lives, unlike the majority of those who watch who watch precisely because they have nothing better to do, well, we'll attract the same problems.
no
Not lack of community and extended families.


Lack of priorities. A lash back at being brought up in more strict environments and not spending time with our own kids.





Guilt and lack of time together is then used as a spoiling device. Negative attention-seeking that the kids display is not then recognised and they rebel when they are unfairly punished. Anyhting for a quick fix.





Lazy, 'busy' stressed parents not putting in the proper effort.





Oh, and schools not being able to help any more as kids can run rings round adults there.
based on the fact that most parents are still kids themselves id say yes we have lost the ability to parent, cos the teenage mums wanna be out drinkin cider in the park which is what got them where they are now!!
No.





Mature, capable, parents don't need community and extended families to help raise children.





Mature, capable, parents not only don't want or need the two-cents or advice of any community or extended family; there are times when community or extended family serve no purpose other than to interfere with a process that was going along fine before outsiders butted in.





I think the parents of today's parents may have failed in some way when it comes to teaching their children how to be parents, and I think all the ';community's'; (culture's) ideas have caused some young parents to listen to foolish ideas.
No I don't think we've lost the ability to parent. I just think with the lack of community and extended families (or families being too far away) it can be more difficult w/o the extra support system. Those 'super nanny' programs are out there for a buck and also we have to remember that there have been 'bad' kids even when our parents/grandparents were young. Its not a new thing.
No I don't think so. I do think that to a certain extent we have become too self centred and forgotten how to be an adult, which is a whole different thing.


However my daughter Sara, who is a whole lot older than me in her attitudes, would agree with you hands down.


That is not to say that she agrees with people being taught how to sing nursery rhymes to their kids.......
No, there is no lost ability, I think some people like prefer or need to work instead of staying at home. I have stayed at home and raise my kids for at least the first year of life. I just cannot trust a stranger to respect my values and morals and how I interact with my newborn. I have sacrificed money to insure my child is taken CARE of by the best person for the job, me, the mother or father.





To myself it really seem like parents do not value education as much, they seem to not teach respect. What's to blame? Society? The 60's? We have slacked in our disciplinary skills the past 20 or so years.





I have often stated that dogs are better parents than humans, they go on instinct and for the most part those 'kids' come out fine, however, have you ever taken note that WE humans are the ones who screw up the dogs? (not every human, but there are a few out there)
its all media hype. its always happened but as a society we never really took much notice and now the media are shoving this kind of thing down our throat like there is no tomorrow!!!





i'm from a ';broken'; home and have an extended family, and my kids are brilliant.

If you are a parent can your child live with you in a dorm at nyu or any other college?

I was wondering because nyumc said it was ok but im wondering about regular colleges and nyu.If you are a parent can your child live with you in a dorm at nyu or any other college?
if the parent is the student, then many universities have family dorms or offer cheaper university owned-apartments for married students and students who have kids.


Many also have free or discounted daycare for student parents, just ask. If you can't find it directly, call their housing director, they should be able to help you.If you are a parent can your child live with you in a dorm at nyu or any other college?
i dont think so, maybe they have family housing.
No but most colleges have family housing. Check with the housing department of your college.
My mom was 25 when she had me and after she had me she decided she wanted to go back to college for a different degree, so we lived in student housing, so I think so. This was 18 years ago though, so it may have changed.
You will need to speak to each campus dean/director of housing to be sure.





Many colleges and universities (especially those that offer post-grad work like PhDs) have dorm areas set aside specifically for families due to the amount of married couples or heads of household that go back to school to pursue further education.
No, children cannot live in regular dorms. However, many colleges have special housing for students with children - student parent housing. This sometimes exists as just specialized dorms that you would share with other student parents, or apartment buildings for you, your children, and your spouse if you have one. Contact your college and find out if anything like this is available. Otherwise, you'll have to live off - campus.
good god... why on earth would a child want to live with their parent in their dorm room?
I don't think so

Where in western New York can a 17 yr old with parent consent get a tattoo?

My mom is allowing me to get a tattoo but sadly i can't find any that accept people under 18 even with a parent?! have any ideas??Where in western New York can a 17 yr old with parent consent get a tattoo?
do it your self its a whole lot easier then it sounds i have done it to myself just make sure u practice on something that mimics the human skin when i was practicing i used frozen chickens from walmart (and yes thaugh before practice)





one more note make sure that u imobilize the area that u are going to tatoo because u may hit a nerve and u need to have the area imobilized so that when it reflexes u dont mess upWhere in western New York can a 17 yr old with parent consent get a tattoo?
sadly if shops wont let you til your 18 its their policy they can lose their licenses to tattoo if they break the law which is just that in new york apparently you can TRY going on craigslist for your area and lookin up tattoo in the search and some artists will pop up willin to trade stuff for tattoos make sure you look at their album of their work before hand and make sure they open everything right in front of you you may not get a really good tattoo may be blotchy or something due to bad ink but i got my first one done that way and it needs touched up now but do your research on the person before it may be worth it may not id just wait to get it in a shop
Sorry I am also from Western Ny It's Ny State Law have to be 18 know matter what, and If a shop will let you do it, then I wouldnt get work done there. Your best bet is to wait until you turn 18.

revlon

Do you think that if you were told everything about being a parent you might have decided not to have kids?

Considering that some people didn't know what they were getting themselves into because they weren't taught about raising kids and all that it entails.Do you think that if you were told everything about being a parent you might have decided not to have kids?
no. i'm pretty stubborn, i tend to learn things the hard way.Do you think that if you were told everything about being a parent you might have decided not to have kids?
Nope. I admittedly don't enjoy every moment of it but that's part of doing something bigger than yourself. I am enjoying the rewards and the challenges because it's made me a better person.
Sometimes it's not a decision, it's destiny.





Besides. Nothing worth doing is easy. Isn't that the saying?
Hell no. I knew from being a child that I wanted kids.





I'm 28, mother to a beautiful 3 year old girl and am expecting another daughter in less than 3 weeks. And I love that parenting experience.


I am a strict parent and my daughter's behaviour is wonderful because of it. That being said, I also love to play with her. We are loud and crazy. Jumping on beds is just the start!


I was never taught how to raise children. I just use common sense and proper judgement.
i agree with the first answer. i learn as i go and raise from my mistakes. not one of those non smarties who make the same mistakes over and over.
I would have still had kids, no doubt about it.





It's very hard to look at your children and think that you made a mistake by having them. You have to be a certain type of (evil?) person to feel that way.
No, even if i were told all about it, i would decide to have kids coz to continue the normal natural chain of life.


Remember, disturbing a normal natural chain can cause serious damage to not only your personality but also to the environment.
I would think that most people would understand that raising children is not always a piece of cake. I know times it was not easy for my parents even though I was a fairly easy child to raise. I have one very easy child, and one not so easy- they are 17 and almost 21- and I can tell you ,even though my hubby and I have had our problems and still do, we would never not want to be the parents of these children. I was not blind to the fact when we adopted our children. I knew that it would not always be easy. Parenting is hard work, but worth it!
None of my kids were planned and I'd never want my kid to be aborted. So, no. I probably would have still had kids.
No. Because yes its hard sometimes, and sure its always easier to babysit other kids because at the end of the day you can always give them back.


But the love you feel for a child cannot be described.


I cant imagine living life without the feeling I get when my son smiled at me for the first time, or when you see them do something new.


Being a parent is so rewarding, and the good times always outweigh the hard times

If you had a terrible childhood, can you ever be a good parent?

I know there is that *chance* that you can be, but is it really likely? And even if you want kids, knowing that you'd be a bad parent, you shouldn't have them right? If you come from a terrible background, how can you change and be able to teach a child better than you were brought up. just asking, don't get angry with me please.If you had a terrible childhood, can you ever be a good parent?
YOu know something, i get what you are saying.. some people grow up with that and unconciencely end up doing the same exact thing that hurt them so much when they were growing up. I think is defenately their choice... you can grow up to be exactly what you hate.. because that's all you really know but on the other side.. you can grow up to be the best parent their is.





I give you a perfect example.. my grandfather used to come home and beat my grandma and just yelled at his kids and beat them as well if things were not done the way he expected them to be...and my dad being little and seeing that.. along with his little brothers.. they hated to see all that and they hated my grandpa... but check this out.. one of my uncles grew up to be exactly like my grandpa.. he doenst beat his kids but he doesn't care about them.. and so those girl are growing up with no love.. but my dad.. he hated that so much he grew up different.. yeah at first he used to beat my mom.. but it dawn on him that hey he is being just like what he hated.. so he stopped and did everything and anything he could for us.. his kids.. he always puts us fiorst before him and gave us everything we need and more.. even if he didnt have it..





I know this is kinda long but it's just to give you alittle of the two sides,, i myself have a daughter now and try really hard to NOT do what i hated about my parents.. but you know we all make mistakes as parents.. but we can change too. and also learn how to be a good parent even if you wqere brought up totally wrong.





Hope my answer clarifies your question a little.If you had a terrible childhood, can you ever be a good parent?
I think it will make you a better parent. Because you already know what can TRULY tramutise your child. Like I will not argue AT ALL in front of my son because it hurt me to much to see and hear my parents. and so on and so on.
You can be a better parent, just keep that in the back of your mind every day and you will be.


Do the exact opposite on everything bad that happened to you and you will be fine.
If you really want to be a parent, you want the best life for the child. I think it begins with the realization that the ';bad'; upbringing was not healthy or normal and as a parent you would want to educate yourself in good parenting. you've seen what bad parenting is. there are tons of books an free information on parenting. I think it begins with love. If you really want to be a parent, the immediate love you experience with a birth will drive you to nurture the best you can-that may mean taking the step of getting those resources and help from others.
Its all a choice to be a great parent, you can always blame your bad childhood and use it as an excuse to not better your own kids lives or to be a lazy parent (Ive seen this) but really...its a choice.


You could have been beaten and sent to school in rags, but as an adult your own kids could live in a 4000sq.ft home with a pool and where Tommy to school...its what you do with your life.
yes


if you had a horrible childhood and you decide to have children


just don't repeat the pattern....you can do everything for your children and love them and not make the same mistakes that were made when you were growing up
YES U CAN TEACH A CHILD WAT U NO NOW NOT HOW U WERE THOUGHT. BEING A BAD PARENT DOESN'T COME NATURALLY ITS SOMETHING PEOPLE CHOSE AND IF U ALREADY EXPERIENCED A BAD CHILD HOOD U SHOULD NO HOW TO PREVENT YOUR SELF FROM MAKING THOSE MISTAKES WITH YOUR OWN CHILD
In my experience, people that had bad parents ended up being really good parents. They've already learned the wrong way to go about things, so they made a conscious decision to treat their kids better than they were treated.





If you don't want kids, don't have them. But if you want kids and don't plan to have them just because you are just afraid of screwing them up...well, that's just silly. Most people have the exact same fear. Parenthood is just a big series of trial and error.
i know for a fact that when you had a terrible childhood you can be a good parent. You just have to try to be better then what your parents were to you. You have to let go of the past and move on. Create a better environment for the baby to grow up in. Be patient.
i believe you still can coz this time you would want that he grows up well without going through the things that you went through .... just be optimistic ... I know you can do it ....
yes, if you have kids you would have a good chance cause you know how it feel to have a bad childhood and if you lave your child you will do anything to not let you child go through what you have been through
Of course you can be a good parent even if you had a terrible childhood. Because you would not want your child to suffer like you did in your childhood. Why would anyone get angry with you!!!!!! I think you take too much notice on what you are told and you should use your own heart to make your own decisions in life. Hope this helps.


Regards Barb
yes, actually yes. you can be.





past is past. if you love your kids, then try to forget the past and focus on how you could provide them love and happiness that you didn't get from your parents.





it's so easy. kids are adorable and cute, i would tell you. you'll be even be inspired to work hard just for them.
Well....


If you had a wonderful childhood, can you ever be a bad parent?


YES, YES, YES.
yes, you can, you just have to remember they are not the ones who hurt you. you have to break the cycle. do our best to love them and make sure you are giving them the best you can. try your hardest
yes you can, just strive to be the opposite
i had a horrible childhood and i'm a great mom who isn't shy about saying it! i think i am a better mom because i went through stuff that taught me exactly what not to do.
The way I see it is like this, if you had a bad childhood, then you know exactly what not to do when you have a child. Many people see having a bad childhood as being a curse, when sometimes it can show you what you don't want to be like.
My mother was manic depressive who refused to take meds, she spent the first 16 years of my life verbally and emotionally abusing me, after that she just continuesly crtisized me which didn't matter any longer because I was no longer living under her roof. My father on the other hand was a violent alcoholic and left some rather nasty scars on the backs of my legs from his belt and did damge to the left side of my face involving the muscles and nerves of my left eye. I broke the cycle, I decided that IF I ever had children I would not parent the same as mine did me. I never hit my daughter, I tried very hard not to belittle or verbally abuse her. I did not emotionally abuse her..that I know of. She is now 21 years of age. Carries a 4.0 GPA in college, is a respectful and respected member of society. She is part of the student goverment in her college and has been often asked to run for student government president, which she refuses. She has also been courted by the city council to take over a vacated position but declined it as she is not interested in a life of politics. I must have done something right. How can it be done? By setting one's goals to getting it done and not backing down.
I would suggest that you follow your heart. If you think you should not be a parent, I would go with those feelings. If you beleive you will be able to put your child first no matter what, then you have will what it takes.


Whatever you decide, just remember what the MOST important thing about being a good parent is...It is just like the beatles said....';All you need is love!'; :o)

Do you need your parent with you or consenting anything when delivering a baby?

What about check ups.....like do you need a parent to consent anything or be with you?????????????????????????Do you need your parent with you or consenting anything when delivering a baby?
If you are the mom of the baby, no you do not need a parent. If you are under your parents insurance however, and you do not have your own insurance card, they may need to be there to use their insurance. Otherwise, no.





But if you want to be on tyhe safe side.. you may want to bring a parent just for the more complicated stuff





hope i helped


pbDo you need your parent with you or consenting anything when delivering a baby?
Just tell your mother. Or a big sis, or an auntie. Tell someone other than your friend.
your too young
No you don't have to have your parent there.. the baby is going to come either way. I was pregnant at 17 and my mom wasnt there for any of it
If you are the mom of the baby, no you do not need a parent. If you are under your parents insurance however, and you do not have your own insurance card, they may need to be there to use their insurance. Otherwise, no.
no unless your under age for when you should nt of been having sex, though im not having a go it happens and some are good mums but i think you should live a bit first as this world is hard enough when you understand it but when just starting out its harder, i was 17 when i had my first though i dont regret him at all i would say wait a little longer get some experience living in the real world with out your parent looking after you and if you can cope with looking after your self and have a good partner which also i didnt though i have now then your ready.
If you are using your parents insurance, then they will probably have to sign paperwork for medical care.





As far as decisions concerning you and the baby, no. Those decisions are up to you and your parents don't have any say in your decisions. Your obviously very young though, so I hope that you do have parents that will be there to help you.
If you are having a baby, that baby is going to come whether or not your parents are giving their permission...:)


You shouldn't need parents with you to go to the doctor for checkups or anything. But it is always a good idea to let them know. If you are a minor, (under 18) most doctor's offices will want a way to contact your parents or guardian in case of an emergency.
If you are under age you might and if you are covered by your parents insurance you might need to have their consent to sign for treatment plans, etc. Not sure though and I am not sure what the cut off age would be for this. Also I am sure states vary on this. Check with your local health department to see.
Sadly, since you'll be having a kid, your considered an adult. Anything that happens now is between you and the doctor. Your parents have nothing to do with this, since neither one of them will be having the baby. Since your an adult now, you'll be responsible for baby, bills, appts, etc. Have fun.
I assume your talking about being a teen mommy.I was 16 when I got pregnant with my daughter and I did everything on my own,my mom wasn't there for anything.
How old are you?

What kind of time is involved in being a per diem Surrogate Parent for the state?

For detailed information about the Surrogate Parent Program


please visit :-





http://www.ct.gov/dcf/cwp/view.asp?a=255鈥?/a>What kind of time is involved in being a per diem Surrogate Parent for the state?
which state?





You may want to check the information from the official government agency that runs the organization. Check your state website for more information.





For CT, your best bet is to check directly with the Department of Children and Families


505 Hudson Street, Hartford, CT 06106


860-550-6300


http://www.ct.gov/dcf/site/default.asp

How to react when parent poses for Playboy or Maxim magazine?

like if your mom is brooke burke, or your mom is lisa rinna. how exactly is a person supposed to feel? when people say i've seen your mom on the internet and in the magazines naked or in a bikini.


it actually helped both women's careers. but to have ugly lusty men having your photos and lusting over you, when you aren't attracted to them, is kind of creepy.


our society is still super prune when it comes to nudity, especially of mothers.


rinna first posed nude when she was 6 months pregnant.


http://images.search.yahoo.com/images/view?back=http%3A%2F%2Fimages.search.yahoo.com%2Fsearch%2Fimages%3Fp%3Dlisa%2Brinna%26ei%3DUTF-8%26fr%3Dyfp-t-501%26xargs%3D0%26pstart%3D1%26b%3D21%26ni%3D20%26amp;w=446%26amp;h=605%26amp;imgurl=www.thehollywoodgossip.com%2Fimages%2Fgallery%2Flisa-rinna-pic.jpg%26amp;rurl=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.thehollywoodgossip.com%2Fcategories%2Flisa-rinna%26amp;size=47.7kB%26amp;name=lisa-rinna-pic.jpg%26amp;p=lisa+rinna%26amp;type=JPG%26amp;oid=2a806162e4094bf8%26amp;no=22%26amp;tt=5,307%26amp;sigr=11ni9e9o7%26amp;sigi=11soavlrv%26amp;sigb=13b5n2edgHow to react when parent poses for Playboy or Maxim magazine?
I've wondered about this too, such as, does Pamela Anderson (and other moms) realize that there are actually pictures preserved in magazines and on the internet that show them nude, and that their children may have access to them one day?


Just strikes me as the typical celebrity mentality, living for the fame-filled moment, not thinking ahead to what it may do to their children if they should accidentally come across pictures of their mothers in the buff.


CONTROVERSY ALERT~ in non-celebrity households, under-exposure of the parents will result in one or more of the following: raised eyebrows, accuasations of borderline sexual abuse, CPS involvement, and years and years of psychotherapy of the child. Celebrities, however, can pose nude, with pictures historically preserved and handed down through the generations, and no one questions it, and their children probably get accolades from all their friends for having such a hot mom.


I guess money does make the world go 'round.How to react when parent poses for Playboy or Maxim magazine?
Well if a woman poses naked publicly, she probably realizes that ugly men will be lusting after her photos - and she probably doesn't care one bit.





I imagine children of porn stars probably learn to adjust early on. I'm betting the kids don't even know until they get older, and by the time they do find out all of their peers will think it's cool to have a porn star for a mom.





It's not a big deal.
Everyones lives are different. You learn to adjust and live with the life you are given, weather your mom is a porn star or a very religious straight by the book woman. You take what your given and live with it.
what's the big deal?

Can a teacher in southern calif have a child evaluated without parent permission?

If by evaluated you mean tested by a doctor or psychologist, then no. If evaluated means an observation of a student in class and collecting information about how the student is doing, then yes.


If a parent refuses to give permission and the school/teacher knows that, a court order may be needed to do it anyway.

revlon

Daughter is been bullied by teacher she is 9y Is there any parent from the local schools in Ceres, CA?

She is 9y.There was a assignment that she did not understand,the teacher wrote a note stated that my daughter did not want to do the assignment, the next day I wrote back to her and stayed that it was a misunderstanding and by put my daughter in a separate room from the other children,my daughter told me she did not know what was going on and the teacher started slamming the door close,at the same time she was screaming at her,I cant believe you told your mother you did not know how to do it!After that my daughter was escorted by the vice principle and the teacher like if he was a criminal to the office,interrogated by the principle, the principle had by daughter call her grandma as my daughter was crying not know what was happen., my daughter has been urinating on her self at school since she has been in that class.A parent that works at that school has a child and my daughter told me he always crys and every time the mom pop in class the teacher treats him the best.what do i do?Daughter is been bullied by teacher she is 9y Is there any parent from the local schools in Ceres, CA?
i suggest changing schools, and enrolling your child into a self defense class to help her confidenceDaughter is been bullied by teacher she is 9y Is there any parent from the local schools in Ceres, CA?
Contact the school board and file a complaint. If that doesn't work, hire a lawyer and sue the school board.

Can a 16 year old make a doctors appointment without a parent knowing?

Or what do I do?Can a 16 year old make a doctors appointment without a parent knowing?
you can,my girlfriend has many times,that's in Australia thoughCan a 16 year old make a doctors appointment without a parent knowing?
Anyone at any age can make a doctors appointment, a 10 year old could....but because your over 16 you can make one and it will be confidential.





If you where under 16 and the doctor thought your parents need to know he could tell them.





Yes just call and schedule.
yes, you can. They can't tell your parents if you dan't want them to because of patient- doctor confidentiality. Just call and schedule one. Just keep in mind that you have to pay for it.
yes you can


medical information is private


just call and say you need to make a appt they will ask for what and you tell them they will give you time and date
Yes they can make a doctors appointment by them self, they are allowed to by the government laws
Planned parenthood yea
Just don't forget they are going to expect you to pay for it. I hope you have that covered.

Do you need a parent approval to go tanning at a tanning salon if you're 16?

before i go waisting my time calling a whole bunch of different tanning salons asking this question, is it normal for them to ask for a parent approval?Do you need a parent approval to go tanning at a tanning salon if you're 16?
its not a waste of time calling to find out. it would b a waste of time going down there then them telling u no.Do you need a parent approval to go tanning at a tanning salon if you're 16?
I live in New York, and here if you're under 18 you need parental permission to go tanning. The sun will be out soon...just wait a few more weeks!!!
most of the time yes

Do anyone know the steps to creating a subsidiary to a Parent Company?

The previous answer is correct, just set up a new corporation owned by the parent. But you might want to consider how that will influence your tax situation, check with your accountant.





Your state may also allow you to set up an alternate name, a trade name or a DBA that will allow you to do business using a name other then the parent company. However this can expose you to liability issues which a new corporation might be able to protect you from.





The bottom line is consider your decision carefully and talk to your accountant or lawyer so you have a good understanding of possible tax or liability exposure.Do anyone know the steps to creating a subsidiary to a Parent Company?
Just do it. It's not that hard.





Set up a separate corporation that is owned by the Parent company.





Good luck.

At what age would you be able to take 2 children (5 & 7) in a public swimming pool without a parent/guardian?

I'm about to go swimming in like 30 minutes, but i promised my mom i'd take my siblings too.


I'm wondering if i'm allowed to take them into the pool without a parent or guardian.


:D?At what age would you be able to take 2 children (5 %26amp; 7) in a public swimming pool without a parent/guardian?
19At what age would you be able to take 2 children (5 %26amp; 7) in a public swimming pool without a parent/guardian?
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revlon

Single Parents.. What did you say when your child asks why his other parent isn't around?

My son hasn't asked yet but I know it will come one day and am hoping to get some insight on how to handle it.Single Parents.. What did you say when your child asks why his other parent isn't around?
My mother refused to speak about it. On one I hand, I never directly asked. On the other, the reason I didnt ask is because it was clear that it was not to be spoken about.





In defense of my mom, I was conceived during rape, so I understand her unwillingness to talk about it. However, I wish soo much that she could have said something about it.





I never really missed having a dad. My uncles served as surrogate father figures, although it was in a more distant way. As I got older and more of my friends' parents were divorcing, I really didnt miss having a dad, because I never had to worry about my family breaking up. And as I watched some of their parents completly drop out of their life, I was even more glad I would never have to deal with that.





I did wonder about it though. Who was my dad? I was 23 before I knew for sure how my mom got pregnant (although she still wont talk about it with me, it was her husband that confirmed it) and probably in my very late teens before I realized that was probably what happened. I grew up wondering if it was a Scarlette Letter thing. Sometimes I still wish that was what happened.





I was 15 when my mom met her husband (who I do not see as a parent figure). To my knowledge she never saw anyone else, although I know it would be naive of me to believe she didnt.. I was young and dont know that I would have known about it if she were.





After that long story..... Tell him the truth as much as you can without killing his hopes. I guess depending on what happened, keep what you tell him age appropriate. Telling a 6 year old daddy isnt around because he raped mommy is a bad idea. But how much you do tell him and when is a personal decision, and should be judged by his maturity at the time he asks. Try to be as comfortable as you can be when talking about it. I wanted soo many times to just ask my mom, and now I wish she could talk to me about it, but its still an unspoken event. Just knowing would have been better than wondering.Single Parents.. What did you say when your child asks why his other parent isn't around?
They don't ask. They do not have a father (thats another story) and so they don't expect anyone to be around.


Be honest with the child to a point. Just explain that there are all types of families, some with mums and dads, some with one parent, some kids just have grandparents that care for them, others foster parents. I do not know your story why the other parent is not there tho so that is the best advice I can give
you don't tell me how old your son is and why the parent is not around, divorce or death. if divorce than whatever you do don't badmouth the other parent no matter what kind of a person the other parent is. It will only backfire and turn the child against you. The child will find out what kind of a person the other parent is all on his own. Just tell the truth, mommy and daddy love you very much but could no longer get along (or whatever) don't ever let the child think it is his fault. If it is death, there are childrens books about that. I am divorced and never said anything bad about my ex, my daugter found out what he is like all on her own. Death I have no expericne with
what my mom used to tell me, was the truth, but in a way i could understand at the time. im glad that she never lied though, it made me feel special, lol, in a way, because i felt if she could tell me the truth, i could trust her and tell her the truth as well. That's probably the number one thing. Don't lie, just tell your son the truth in a smaller version and maybe in less detail, just to make it easier to understand.
Maybe you could say that (partner) is in the military or that his job requires (them) to travel all the time and they could not get a job doing anything else





but I believe that eventually you should tell them the truth (no offense)
I have always told my children the truth and explained it to the best of my ability depending on the age of the child. In my opinion when you tell the truth they accept that and go on like its normal.
My Mum just told me the truth, she and my dad just weren't together and weren't in love, but they're still friends.
Whatever the truth is... i guess. i don't have to explain anything for a couple more years.

Do you need a parent to go with you to get a drivers permit?

%26amp; licence?Do you need a parent to go with you to get a drivers permit?
it depends on what state you live in.


i know for KY, IN, TN and AL that you don't need a parent present to get your license. I don't think you need one for getting your permit either. I know i didnt need one present for my motorcycle permitDo you need a parent to go with you to get a drivers permit?
i don't think so.


but then again, i'm 18.





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If I was a parent, why would I ask questions about caring for my child on Yahoo?

Seems a bit ridiculous to me.If I was a parent, why would I ask questions about caring for my child on Yahoo?
If my daughter was writhing on the floor turning blue, I wouldn't jump on Yahoo Answers to ask other moms what they think I should do. If I have questions or need advice on things like weaning, potty training or standard stuff, this is where I go. There's nothing wrong with getting basic advice from mom's who have been there %26amp; done that.If I was a parent, why would I ask questions about caring for my child on Yahoo?
I am suprises so many people responded... I don't have kids and now I know why. I wouldn't know what the he** to do.

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Nobody's perfect. There are many many different ways to raise children and each and every parent has room for improvement in some area or another. People come here to get different points of view, different perspectives in certain areas and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. And this is a great place for new parents who may have a few questions about how to do something or what to when something happens.








Just because a parents asks for advice or opinions on something doesn't make them any less of a parent, it makes them a good parent for wanting to improve.
There is your answer. ';If'; which means you are not! Therefore you cannot possibly know the constant feelings of doubt and guilt over not making the right decisions that come along with having a child. You always questions yourself and sometimes people need affirmations that they are doing ok. This is great for first time mothers or loners who don't get out much or abused women who are isolated and this is their only means of a social life. Every parent cares about their child, and sometimes we go to many lengths to make sure we are doing the very best for our kids. Maybe people didn't have a good upbringing and have no idea what is right when it comes to their kids. Would you rather they not ask at all and something horrible happen? I find it a bit ridiculous you have nothing better to do with your time then sit on here and question peoples parenting when you in fact aren't one yourself!
If you weren't, why would you ask a question on a parenting forum?





Look, I can agree with you that some types of questions are ridiculous or even dangerous. If someone's child's well-being depends on the answer, this is the wrong forum. ';What illness does my daughter have?'; is a downright neglectful question if there's any remote possibility that it's at all serious.





However, ';what's the best way to clean a stuffed animal,'; or ';is it normal for kids not to be able to do *** at *** age'; or ';what toys would you recommend for a 5-year-old';, etc. are all totally reasonable questions.





And so is a little release and humor and mutual venting, as well as a little debate on the issues that don't have right answers but which plague us all.



It's no different than asking a friend who has kids - except you get a lot more answers on yahoo. It's perfectly normal for a parent to ask another parent's advice about child care. If parents called their child's doctor for every random question, the doctors would never have time to treat patients.
I see Y!A as more of a resource to get other people's opinions and experience. I wouldn't take anything anyone says here as an absolute, but more to see what they did in a similar situation.





Actually, I see this in any question on Y!A, not just the parenting section. If you look at it logically, an answer could come from anybody. Sure, they can say they are a lawyer, a doctor, a nurse, a mother, whatever...doesn't make it true. So you take it all with a grain of salt.
Because lots of mom's have good advice. Sometimes you just need a sounding board for feedback. You should always follow your gut, but knowing what has helped other mom's is reassuring. Sometimes it is hard to connect with other moms in ';real life'; to share stories, so this is another way to connect.
Because you can get quick responses and some great advice from personal experience from others. People who have been in your shoes when your friends probably haven't. It's not like we come on here and do what all is suggested to do from others. We aren't completly brainless.
because sometimes you want to have someones opinion who isnt a friend or family member. its a nice outlet for people to speak the truth and help others without being a part of whatever is really going on. and its a nice place to look and see what other people would do in that situation.
People ask because they want answers. There are A LOT of experienced people on here, so why not ask? You don't HAVE to do what someone tells you to. And sometimes it's nice getting a second opinion without having to bug your doctor for the umpteenth time. Cool down, jerk.
Parents seek advice from other parents.....what is ridiculous in that?
Because its good to get other people's opinions, and get advice from people that have been in your same shoes.
Its always good to get advice from other people who will listen thats always comforting
quick responses for people looking for personal experience.
because sometimes its nice to get advice from people who have been in your shoes
because you would be an idiot who should not of had kids in the first place.

What age is too old and too young to be a parent.?

I think anything under 15/16 really is too young for most, as most are still kids themselves where some are mature i guess, but also some mothers are 40ish and having babies..and i think thats not always fair. My nan had her last at 39 and she was ill for most of the childs teenage life.What age is too old and too young to be a parent.?
anything under 21 - too young.





anything over 40 - too old.





my mum had me at 39 mind you, and we're a happy normal family. She wasn't sick, and is still happy and healthy. I think I turned out fine.What age is too old and too young to be a parent.?
I dunno about too young ... I don't really have an opinion if the individual/s are mentally / financially / emotionally stable. The health risks with older mothers is what I guess I have an opinion on. 40 I would say is when I think you would want to start thinking about stopping... I hope that doesn't sound judgmental but 20 years (if you think from 20 - 40) seems like a long time to have a child and if it is something you want (extremely want) I think you would have made the time in those years without going against nature in later years.





Eek! I hope that doesn't offend anyone :P
Tough question. You don't want to start too early. You want to be established (fineshed with school and working) before you bring a child into the world. I have seen too many young moms struggling with school, motherhood, job...It's just not fair for all involved. On the other hand, you don't want to be too old to have children. The older you get, the less energy you will have. ALso, parents want to be around for their children's milestones and important events: graduation, marriage, grandkids....
Depends on the person and situation


Sometimes it forces people to grow up but if you aren't an adult you shouldn't be TRYING to have a baby and no I don't agree with women who are in their 50's having babies..because yes 50s can still be young but you'll be 70 when they graduate come on my sons great gramma is 71
Well...I would of became a father at 16 but she didn't want a baby at the time so she did the unthinkable...anyways I was ready...I might of been young...very young but I knew what I had to do and for a short time I was preparing myself for what was going to happen. When I was 18 is when I had my 1st and since I had to grow up at such a young age it came secound nature to provide. Now I have a 5 year old a 2 year old and my wife is due with our 3rd March 6th. I wanted my children young so I could be able to enjoy them as well as they enjoy me. Personaly I think 18 to 20 is a good age to start and maybe 40 is when you should stop. That's my thought on it.
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i had my 1st kid at 23 ...i believe in the 20s would be a good time ..to have kids ..provided u guys are financially stable as well as relationship stable plus yr mind is mental prepared for kids becos is a life time committment and besides u need the energy to run around with them ...





I would recommended not to have kids 35 n above ...





firstly ...mothers may have miscarriage.your body gets weaker as u grow old If u dont take good care from young ,





secondly ...yr baby may be adnormal ....so therefor during pregnancy u need to run tests to check ....is a risk to take no one knows .. is not trying scare u but is the facts ... of coz there are ppl who delivers at 40 n all is good :)





I see parents having kids around 40 plus .i find it a selfish act ...to be direct .how long can they see their kids grow up ? also are they able to take care of them when they are troddlers ..u need loads of energy ..kids are hyper u know...n we are not as we grow old ... that a factor that needs to think about ..





It is just my own thoughts n opinon..wont want to offend any one here ...but if u feel that having a child at a later stage in life then go ahead ..life is yrs do what best u think is right ! End of the day as long you and yr family are happy ...
it's not the age it's the maturity....I was 18 when I had my first, she'll be 5 in a few months...anyways, I am a much better parent than a 30 year old crack addict. I'm at a good place in my life to raise my girls so I think it varies for each person. I think the maximum age should be whenever someone decides to stop. It's not our decision.
I think mid twenties is a good time, but I've seen 19 year olds with good parents who picked up good parenting and life skill from them. It may depend on skills and maturity. I hate to say over 35 is getting up there, that may depend also. Some people are in better health and all, than others. Maybe you can only make general rules.
My mom was 39 when she had me. She's 60 now and wasn't sick during my life.





I'd say about 45 is too old, and under 18 is too young, but for certain people, even 18 is too young. Truthfully, as for being too young, you have to be of a certain maturity level to have a child.
I would say under 21 is too young. It's hard to say what is too old, i'd say for most women 40 is kind of pushing it, and as you get older there is an increased chance of things like downs syndrome occurring.
Well to young is when you are not able to support yourself yet (therfore you can not support a baby). There is no official age. To old is when you can no longer make a healthy baby or have the energy to raise one.
I was a young mother so i give you this advice with experience!!! I think that you should be atleast 21 if not older.





I was very young i was 18. I dont regret it as i love my children very much!!! But honestly it would have been better to have them in my 20's.





I think that when you get to the age of about 45 it is deffinately to old to have children.





I know i wouldn't want to have my children at that age as i want to make sure i see my children grow up and i want to be fitter enough etc to stll have fun with them.
For me the age of being too young being a parent is 17 and below.


And also for me there is no too old because my mom gave me birth when she was 43 yrs. old and she is currently 53 years old.
Too young is anything under 20-even then that's too young. Too old is when the body stops being able to get pregnant-which is around late 30s.
I agree that anything under 16 is too young and i think and i've seen people up to 50 have kids. It does get harder as the years go by though.
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At what age can a child choose to live with the parent that he wants to live with in massachusetts?

a father and daughter are very happy together. This is a joint custody case where the mother has physical custody. the father would like the next few years to raise his child. There is no abuse on either side.At what age can a child choose to live with the parent that he wants to live with in massachusetts?
I think 16 in most states. You may want to consult an attorney. He will have the answer.At what age can a child choose to live with the parent that he wants to live with in massachusetts?
To the best of my knowledge the magic number is 14. In a few states I believe that the courts will waive the age to 12, but I think it really depends upon your judge.





It is, unfortunately, tough for dads to get custody unless they can prove the mother unfit. However, if his daughter is requesting the change perhaps some concessions can be made.





Your best bet here is to get ahold of your attorney and figure out the best course of action. Make sure you include your daughter in every step and that there is no mud-slinging from your side. Good luck!
well in any state i the u.s. i think is is 14 or 15
i think its 12
if the mother is saying yes and giving you the daughter then age doesn't matter, if she has a problem with it then i think 12.
12
Each state is different, and I am not up on Massachusetts law. But as a rule, if there are no psychological or emotional problems or issues in the family, a judge will consider the wishes of the minor child at around age 15 when hearing the case.
Normally, the child can't really choose, but the court will listen to a teenager's desire, and if all parties are amenable, may allow the change.
get an agreement amoung yourselves ,as long as you both agree, and check with the courts for advice

How old do you have to be to get pierced without parent signature in georgia?

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is it 16 or 18?How old do you have to be to get pierced without parent signature in georgia?
18 and you have to have id to show themHow old do you have to be to get pierced without parent signature in georgia?
18 and no younger even with parental consent. Anyone in Ga who will do it younger is a shady establishment.
it depends on where you live, in australia we wont pierce any one under 16 unless it's a sexual piercing you need to be over 18

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Do child labor laws still apply for a child working for a parent?

If my son wants to work with me (he's 15) do child labor laws still apply?


Like wages, taxes, working more than 3 hours a night, work permits, etc.





He wants to work with me.


The job involves working with animals.Do child labor laws still apply for a child working for a parent?
Except for a few industries, no child labor laws do not apply when the parent is the employer.Do child labor laws still apply for a child working for a parent?
I think there are exemptions to a child working in a family business, but I wouldn't chance it. Of course things like wages and taxes still apply. I would contact the attorney for the business to make sure everything is in order. It's better to have it and not need it than need it and not have it.
James have given you a good link, but if you read it carefully, you'll note that the only exemption is the AGE of the person. Other standards still apply.

Do you need your parent to go with you to the tanning salon?

(I am a minor) and i am going tanning with my friend and her mom. Do i need my mom to come to? or is it okay to just have one parent with us. we are using tannning beds, not spray. Do you need your parent to go with you to the tanning salon?
yes you must be over 18.


-rorinneDo you need your parent to go with you to the tanning salon?
It depends where you go, but no, you shouldn't need your mom since their is an adult going, she could sign for you. If you know where you're going, go to their website %26amp; see what they require. Good luck, I'd be way too scared to use one of those. And also, way too scared to come out looking orange,
you could probably go and have HER mom sign for you..


but someone is going to have to. and the tanning salon people are going to want it to be your parent. its a law =\
it's fine to have just one parent come. My girlfriend wanted me to come with her and her mom came with us and it was fine. (We are both 18)
the laws for that are different in every state. google ';tanning age';. you should have your parent come just in case though.
Ya, just go with your your friends mom and have her sign you in, or just pretend she is your mom.
I guess it depends on where you go. But just me %26amp; my friend went once by ourselves %26amp; they didn't care.
i tried to go with my mom when i was 17. it's illegal to go if you're under 18.
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What are your views on the importance of becoming a good parent?

The most important thing you'll ever do is raise your children - it's of paramount importance to do it right and be good at it!!What are your views on the importance of becoming a good parent?
If you have children, your focus should be on the children and doing what is best for them always. Children learn what they are taught...and what by example. The more ';good'; we show them, the better people they will be to themselves and others. VERY IMPORTANT.What are your views on the importance of becoming a good parent?
There is no other option. I did not make it this far to screw things up. I refuse to accept doing a piss poor job. If I wanted to do that, then I wouldn't have had kids.
My view is that it is very important. I don't sit around thinknig about how I can be a worse parent...
its very important?

Anyone else sick and tired of the 'how do i convince my parent's' pet questions?

Seriously. Look at some that have already been posted or figure it our yourself. I see like 20 of these per day in the pets section, especially with horses. Either you're ready or you're not, your parents probably have a good reason for saying no.Anyone else sick and tired of the 'how do i convince my parent's' pet questions?
YES! And usually the posts contain a lot of info that indicates that the kid is NOT ready for a pet. I usually tell them their parents are right, which doesn't make me the most popular person around!Anyone else sick and tired of the 'how do i convince my parent's' pet questions?
I see quite a bit of horses, but I also seem to see a ton of ferret ones, too. (It might just be that I answer mostly ferret questions) I think I've asked it once or twice, but usually because I had a specific thing I was trying to figure out. I mean, so many people ask it that just search it in the search bar- I'm sure someone almost meets what you are like!





Although I agree with horses- they are a huge commitment, expensive, and need lots of room, but with other animals, sometimes parents don't really have much of a reason to say no. When someone only has a dog and wants 2 rats, I just go ';come ON! Just let them get the rats.'; Because 3 pets isn't /that/ many, and rats have tons of myths that can ruin their reputation.
It's definitely in my top 3 most annoying questions asked on this site:





1) How do I convince my parents to let me get a pet?


2) Could I be pregnant?!?!


3) Is my friend pretty? (it's usually not their friend, it's them) OR Who is prettier, left or right? OR Am I pretty [PICS]??
Yes and the sad news is it gets way worse in the summer kids are out of school. And it seem they have nothing better to do than to come on here ask how can they convince such an such to let them get a pet.


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By the way Katie that was great blog post I can't agree with you more on those.
Yes, a little annoyed..If you can't come up with your own way to convince your parents..That probably means you aren't ready to own an animal.
That, among other things. I made a blog post about that...





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MOST DEF!~!!! If the parents wont buy a pet, why cant they just accept it and wish for the day they can be independent?
I hear you. The only question that is worse is the ';do you think I'm pretty - rate me'; questions.
Me too. Why can't they just search the previous questions thingy?
OMG!!!!!! I HATE THOSE QUESTIONS!!!
Not really no. xD





but there is a lot.

Can you still be a party animal and be a responsible parent/s?

I'm not a parent but I would like to be one day.


I like to party(all night if I can) but I don't think you can socialize like that and have fun and still be a great Mom/or Dad?


Any Points of View out there?Can you still be a party animal and be a responsible parent/s?
this is my point of view on it:


it depends on the circumstances. no you cannot party all night with limited sleep and still be attentive %26amp; alert to your child. you can however go %26amp; have drinks with friends, get home at a decent hour %26amp; still get up with your child.


adult time is recommended for any parent, married, single, one child or five. all doctors %26amp; pedetricians recommend that you have adult time once a week or a couple times a month to maintain your sanity, but there is a fine line between socializing with friends %26amp; partying hard all night!


if you leave your child with a responsible babysitter (like a nanny or grandparent) that they are familiar with to go out every now %26amp; then with friends, no biggie. just make sure you do it responsibly!Can you still be a party animal and be a responsible parent/s?
I know i will get lots of thumbs down for this..but YES you can.


although not everynight..or every weekend!


What i used to do, is go out on the friday night, and get totally legless, then i could relax knowing that my partner wasnt at work on saturday, and he looked after the kids all day!





Now i am a single mum, i can no longer do this..but every other weekend, my ex takes the kids from a friday @6pm, till saturday @8pm..so if i do go out, then i go out on the friday, anf spend all day in bed!
You can't,





I had my first at 22 and although i was living with my mom,


I would put my son to bed at 8 pm, my mom would watch him and encourage me to go out with my sister





I would only go to a local bar, no more then 1 beer, and usually just soda,





come home and check on him at midnight, and go out until 2pm the latest,





on that note, I would always wake up with him in the morning and feed him ect,,


so you can imagine that the 2 pm was very Infequent,





and I only went out BECAUSE my mom pressured me to go and have fun,





I only did this once in a while and on a friday or saturday,





on the last occasion I had 2 drinks and got my first hang over


I NEVER drank again, nor went out





I felt that if I couldn't take care of my child, there was no point,





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YOUR priorties take a back seat when kids arrive
I was 18 when i had my son and when he was six months i would go out and ';party'; drink hang out, whatever came up, and i would come home the next morning. But it's not worth it cause you are just thinking about the baby you left at home for someone else to watch.


So now i dont go out i would rather be with him and sure that he is safe, so when he wakes up in the middle of the night he knows i am there.
no you cannot, should get all that out of your system before deciding to have children, and when you do have children most people don't want to be a party animal, there wants and needs change, they are content being with there child, it brings more joy then partying ever could
No. this is why most people settle down then have kids.
I WAS TRAPPED INTO PARENTHOOD SO IM JUST BIDING MY TIME TILL I CAN PARTY AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!
No. Not an all night party animal. Most people, once they decide to have children, actually do not want to stay out partying all night. You can still hire a babysitter and go out and have fun, but your life does change quite dramatically. Most people who are mature and who have ';sown their wild oats'; welcome this change, but there are a few people who feel very tied down. If you enjoy partying that much, I would be sure and wait a good long while before settling down.
Yea, I agree and don't agree. I had my oldest daughter at the age of 18 and I never regret her but I regret not making smarter choices. I never got to party I really don't even know what it would be like to really party I guess you could say I was a goody two shoes growing up. It's either that or the fact that my mom was a single mom and I had to help take care of my three sisters so I grew up faster so in short if you take a night here and there no it doesn't make you a bad parent but if you feel the need to do this constantly then you are not ready to be a parent.





Good Luck!
LOL Um no. Unless you want your baby to grow up with a hung over mom and at a baby sitters house most the time! You have to pay attention to your baby to help them grow not to mention make sure they don't get hurt. Babie and children need stability! Like a strict schedule. Not gonna happen if you party all night. Please don't have a baby til your done with all that ****!
you can go out and have fun every once in a while if you have good family or friends willing to take the baby over night you cant take the baby with that's not good parenting me and my husband go out maybe 1 time a month just because you become a mom life doesn't stop however you do have high priorities and when you are a mom parties are not one of them
I used to party all the time before I had my son. I don't feel you can be a good parent %26amp; party all night, the 2 just don't go together. When I see my old party friends they always ask ';you going out tonight?'; When I tell them ';no, I don't even drink anymore'; they can't believe it. When you become a parent you have to grow up and make some sacrafices, one of which SHOULD be your party life.
There is no real yes or no answer to this question. It's healthy to have adult time after kids- but as they get older and understand what's going on- you don't want them telling their friends at school that ';mommy had too much beer'; or something like that.


But, I play Bunko with a group of girls, and it's great! Once a month we meet up, have some drinks, and catch up on all the gossip and all that. And then maybe once a month the parents go out, and we get a babysitter. Also, in the summer, we have an adults only vacation, and then a kid friendly vacation. Usually the adults only vacation gets all of our partying out for the rest of the year!


Kids are great! You'll be surprised at how much you will give up, or how much you would rather be with them than out on the town. Not to mention, that hopefully who ever you have kids with will be someone you enjoy staying home with too.
You can still have fun, but it is hard to be a good parent when you are passed out on the couch.
You wont have the energy to be a good parent if you like to party. Then again you wont have the energy to party when you have got kids. If you dont want to give up your party animal lifestyle I wouldnt have kids. It wouldnt be fair on the kids if you wanted that kind of lifestyle.
No-the ones who really party end up neglecting their kids while they party at home. You don't want to be one of those moms that bring their kids to the bar when you can't find a sitter, do you?


The times I did go out when my kids were little, I was calling the sitter every half hour or so. Its hard; you do still need to get away and have a good time without the kids sometimes-maybe if you are close to your parents they could take the kids all night once in a while; you wouldn't want to do that to the kids (or your parents) very often. Also, think about who the designated driver is going to be-VERY IMPORTANT!! Who is going to raise the kids if you die in an accident, or are tied up in court after causing an accident.
No you cannot. If you're hungover and feeling grim after you have been out, then you cannot look after the child properly...you need to be on high alert a lot of the time.
Your idea of what is fun will change as you get older. I used to go out a lot and late in college. When I was in grad school, i realized that I preferred to stay at home with my boyfriend and watch movies, and go out for a drink with friends now and then. Now that I have 2 kids, I find enjoyment in my career, my children, and my husband as well as doing mellow things with friends (tea, after work drink, etc)
Well, can you party all night, and get up in the morning at 6am and be able to take care of your kids properly all day? Would probably be pretty hard to.





If it was only an occasional thing, and you had a babysitter lined up, then it would probably be okay.





However, most women, when they become mommies, don't really have the desire to party all night anymore.
In a word, NO!





Get the partying out of your system while you're young, and THEN settle down and have kids. This is a good reason to not become a teenage parent. Wait until you've had your fun, then you'll be ready to become a responsible and devoted parent.
While Mom is out partying, who will be there if the baby wakes up crying in the middle of the night? What if the kids get sick and want Mommy, but she's out hitting club after club and drinking? Kids want Mommy during those times, not a strange babysitter. It's one thing to go out and have a reasonable night out every once in awhile, but doing it frequently is a sign of an unfit parent.


Or, what if your foolish choices while out partying get you hurt - or worse? Who will be there to take care of your children? Getting drunk off your @ss when you have children at home is extremely dangerous, inconsiderate, and irresponsible. That's just something that parents need to consider.


Also, hard nights usually mean days of sleeping in or being groggy from partying all night. It's a good way to let your kids down, and eventually get them taken away by CPS.


I do enjoy the occasional night out. I also still have many of the same hobbies an interests that I had before I became a mom. But kids DO change your life; you can't expect to run wild after having kids if you want to do what's right for them. But when you're truly ready for children, you won't mind the changes in your life.


Think long and hard before you have children. If you're not ready to give up being a party animal, you're really not ready for children. Good luck.
sorry, but I disagree with all you party poopers here. I'm 22 with two children and my husband and I still go out and ';party hard.'; It's not an every night thing like it used to be, but once or twice sometimes even three times a month they stay overnight with my parents or inlaws and we go out til the wee hours of the morning, drinking, socializing, just enjoying ourselves. The kids like the sleep overs at grandma and grandpas and imho we're better parents the next day when we pick them up. Every parent needs time to themselves to do what they enjoy doing, and if you enjoy partying then so be it. I'm at home with my kids 24/7 besides those few nights a month playing, reading, learning with them and sorry, but I'm a good mom. Likewise my husband loves spending time with them and just interacts so wonderfully with them, better than most [older] parents I know who spend every friday night at home.
I don't think that u can be a ';party animal'; %26amp; be a responsible parent, especially if u drink a lot when u go, but I do think that u can still go out %26amp; have fun %26amp; be a responsible parent. I'm 21 %26amp; use to party all the time before I got pregnant. I'm not really a drinker though. I just use to go to have fun with my friends. I'm going to start back going out sometime after my daughter is born, but not as often as I use to. Just be prepared to slow down before becoming a parent.
It depends on what you mean by party animal. If you are talking about one who drinks/smokes/parties wildly, then that person is not responsible, period, and wouldn't make a responsible parent.





Partying all night is irresponsible.
You can still socialize and have fun when you are a parent. But all night benders go out the window the second you find out you're pregnant and probably won't ever be the same if you decided to party hard again.





You have the desire to be a mom and once you bring a life into this world everything you used to like to do will be changed somehow. From my own experience, the love I feel for my son outweighs any ';fun'; I could possibly have outside of our home.
The definition of 'party animal' is a fairly loose one here. I can't believe everyone is answering no to this! I'm a 28 year old stay at home mom. My husband is 32 and we have a four year old and a one year old. I see absolutely no reason why you can't party your butt off all night long every so often..... I think I'm an incredible parent and I go out and get fall down drunk about once a month until 2 or 3..... or 4 in the morning. Kids sleep over at grandma's and we go our and tear it up and pick them up at noon the next day. If you can't suck it up to take care of your kids the next day then I guess you just don't deserve to go out. We are totally normal people. I can't believe I'm this outside of the norm on this.
I had a child at 23 and her mother (19 at the time) and we would party pretty hard, pretty often; and not just on weekends. I realize now that we were stupid kids. We were living with my very straight-laced parents and we weren't taking care of our child very well. I eventually came to my senses and her mom and I split when my child was 6 months old. Her mom's desire to keep partying was a big factor in our separation. However, since I didn't have a child to care for all the time, and I was feeling depressed about losing her mom, I started partying even harder.


Again, I eventually came to my senses. I had to cut off contact from my so-called freinds and remove myself completely from the scene for a while. I had seen what it was doing to me and my parenting ability. I hated myself and I have A LOT of regrets.


Now, I'm a bit older and MUCH wiser and I really have no desire to go out all the time, or even get drunk at home.


I'm a lot happier with my life and I KNOW I'm a better parent. (for one thing, I can remember stuff now) And I know I'm setting a much better example for my child. As parents your main job is to be a teacher, whether you want to or not. You ';teach'; your children everything they know, because no matter how much schooling and formal education they have kids learn a lot more by the example their parents set for them (good or bad) than from any other resource.





There's no reason you can't go out an enjoy yourself once you have kids, but you have to be resposible even if the kids are at Grandma's for the night. You never know when you might have to make a run to the emergency room because something horrible has happened.
Yeah, take a look at my ex if you can find him. He drank and did drugs, that is part of the reason he isn't allowed to see his son. His lifestyle isn't a stable one. He disappeared for hours or days. I stayed at home watching our child. I felt like a single mom being with my ex. He always went out by himself, and did whatever he had to do. He never grew up to take responsibility to take care of his own. He couldn't hold a job for more than 3 months, just when he'd get a raise or another step up the ladder of success he quits. I am glad I am not with him anymore. Parents with kids that party all the time I think are neglecting their own kids. Kids need their parents there, regardless of age. You can go out once in awhile if you can afford a sitter and drinks. I wouldn't make it a habit of every single weekend, all weekend long. Parents need a break from their kids. Being hungover the next day isn't a great Idea.