Do you sometimes feel like you love a parent because they are just that - your parent?

I love my mum not just because shes my mum. I love her for the person she is, not just for the sake of loving her because she gave birth to me and I have to or something.





I'm not too sure about my dad. I don't exactly love him for the person he is, so therefore, does that mean its just loving someone because you have to in a way?





How do you even know if you truly love someone?Do you sometimes feel like you love a parent because they are just that - your parent?
I have reflected before on the fact that I would probably not be ';friends'; with either mom or dad if they weren't my parents...





but I think you can look at it from the other direction too, rather than saying we love because we ';have to';, we can try to extend that odd level of tolerance we afford our relatives to the others we meet in our daily lives and try to truly love our neighbors, friend or not.Do you sometimes feel like you love a parent because they are just that - your parent?
You ask deep questions sometimes. But cutting to the chase, I think love is simply a matter of feeling and not thinking about it so much. If you analyse love, I think it goes away. Or if you have to analyse perhaps it never was? The first reaction is the best in my opinion.





It was good to see you on Facebook and now I have a good image of you. Thanks. I was so surprised! You are so silly about your looks because you are a good looking girl with all the insecurities of youth. Probably a very healthy thing in reality for having it altogether when young would not be much of a challenge. Still I am sure you agree that a little less trauma would be nice. People, as you know, can be such a pain. The nice thing is that we have two feet and can walk away anytime. Remember rejection is a part of life and the harder one is rejected, the better the very next experience. However, pain generally never goes away, but you are not the payee, but really the payer. The Illusion never seems to subside and we sometimes lose our joy 鈥?yet do not let that happen. I am so glad that you like writing.
You don't really know. Maybe you don't even love him, but you don't have to feel sorry for this. We do not chose who to love or who to not love. You don't love someone because that someone is your parent. For example, orphans don't love the mum that gave birth to them, they love the mother that took care of them.





And sorry for my bad english %26gt;:D%26lt;
In MY (humble) opinion... there IS a degree of MATURITY that is REQUIRED... It's NOT something that comes with the RESPECT that any 'responsible' parent requires from their children! It comes, later ON, when the 'child' REALIZES that it DID really HURT the parent to 'administer' the 'discipline', that made that 'child' RESPECT that 'parent'! When the 'child' comes to the realization that the 'parent' endured the 'PAIN' for the GOOD of the 'child', and NOT for their parent's well-being, or self-esteem, then it begins to have 'MEANING' to the 'child'!





Without 'advocating' having children as a 'learning experience', I can think of NOTHING that makes the 'point' more vividly, than trying to 'raise' one's own children, in a responsible manner, and then 'REFER BACK' to the LESSONS that one's PARENTS TRIED to 'instill!' And for WHAT reason???





LOVE!!!!





THEN, it STARTS to become CLEAR!!! And THEN it STARTS to be UNDERSTOOD! And, THEN it STARTS to be APPRECIATED! and THEN.. THEN, the LOVE... GROWS!!!
wow...this question made me think =/





well i love my parents for the people they actually are not just because they gave birth to me....





If you really love someone you are very scared of losing them and feel that you wouldnt be able to live without them...y'know